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I’m showing my son it’s okay to be without a partner or a relationship by not rushing into another one...

“You should wait a year” is the dating advice single parents often hear in regards to introducing children to significant others. In theory, the relationship is “solid” by a year…


We forget the butterfly’s journey doesn’t end when it emerges with wings…

This piece isn’t so much about parenting hacks or parenthood, but perhaps a reminder that we are human. …


Can we stop pushing unwilling, unfit, or uninterested parents on children?

Every year on Father’s Day, as a solo mom, I receive messages from friends and family commending me for wearing both metaphorical parenting hats. I appreciate the acknowledgment for running a household and raising a child solely on my own, both physically and financially. Still, I want to say that…


“AM I DOING THIS RIGHT?” MODERN PARENT CONTEST

This post is an entry in Modern Parent’s “Am I Doing This Right?” writing contest.

She feels as though she’s divided right down the center. She’s overwhelmed when she is asked to simultaneously do two things, like when her deep, despair thinking is interrupted by a sleepy request for breakfast…


People may not realize how hard it is to celebrate yourself on a day when the world expects others to do it for you.

Mother’s Day is approaching, and as a single mom, I don’t look forward to it. I get anxious in the weeks prior. Ever since I was a child, there was always some unspoken rule about how Mother’s Day would go down. There were projects made at school, flowers, presents, breakfast…


The rainbow house appeared when my son and I started to find our groove.

The rainbow house was an enigma, something unique to my son’s world, and I miss it. It was a place he created when he was about 3. One day he started drawing rainbows. He drew rainbow houses, people with rainbow hair, rainbow animals, rainbows everywhere. Once in a while, he…


Lately, I can’t scroll through Medium or Instagram without seeing articles about avoiding narcissists, the top ten signs of narcissists, or how to safely burn a sage circle around your home after a narcissist discards you. The overabundance of information is starting to drain me. Having had several relationships with…


Memories of Masks and Mexico

In early March of 2020, while people were buying toilet paper in bulk, I met a man for dinner. We drank wine, shared food, and cracked jokes about contracting the coronavirus, not knowing how serious and life-altering it would be. The evening ended clumsily successful.

The following day, the Shelter…


I never wanted my son to play Fortnite. NEVER. I knew there were dances, and guns, and shooting. For my son with an IEP, the last thing I wanted was him playing a game with guns in it. End of conversation. …


Relaxing my stance on food and mealtimes allowed us to connect, instead of contending with each other.

I’m a California mom living in a utopia of warm sunny weather and an endless supply of fresh fruits and vegetables. Californians have a reputation for eating healthy food, which I realized recently…

Kendra

Bay Area Misfit Mom originally from the Midwest, writing with compassion, color, and candor about the way things are and how they could be.

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